6 Big Factors For Breakups
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Today’s world looks like a bad one for relationships. It seems like everywhere you look, couples that were once so close and happy are fragmenting and going their separate ways. Every couple has their own reasons for breaking up, but there are 6 in particular that usually have something to do with it, and you can help to keep your relationship from going the way of theirs by taking these 6 problems into consideration.
1) Unfaithfulness is a supreme destroyer of relationships…nothing really wounds a person so much as when his/her partner isn’t happy enough at home that he/she decides to go looking for what’s missing in other places. Cheating on your lover is probably the coldest, most hurtful thing you can do to a person and usually results in nigh-unfixable breakups…so the best way to deal with the problem is to never have it in the first place.
2) Neglecting your partner’s feelings is another really hurtful thing that can cause a breakup, and in fact does a lot of the time. People have emotions, even the guys who like to act like they don’t so much…and it really hurts when they’re never considered by the person whom the love the most. Always listen to your partner, and be considerate of how he/she feels.
3) Everybody knows that no relationship goes on for very long without the occasional fight…but it’s important to not get too fired up in these conflicts. A bad temper and refusal to calm down and listen is the absolute of all the WRONG ways to handle fights. Take things with as level a head as you can muster, and try to address real problems rather than petty squabbles and gripes. Make your fights productive, not destructive.
4) I know it’s been glorified as one of the most hilarious “unpleasant situations” by TV and movies, but being stuck in a relationship where your partner is constantly looking over your shoulder and demanding to know every minute detail of what’s going on at all times is an emotionally draining tax on the lover’s soul. As much as your boyfriend or girlfriend may love you, acting this way will cause him/her to not be able to stand you. If you can’t trust anyone, you’re going to be alone…so try to loosen up on the reins.
5) A lot of relationships these days end because one or both people just gets bored from a lack of spontanaeity and fun. This is really sad to me, because people who are so in love should never get bored of the object of that affection. If a relationship isn’t kept alive with good clean fun and being together isn’t the joy it should be, there’s something wrong. No relationship should just “peter out” because you two don’t do anything together anymore…even if you’re both busy, you should be able to find time to spend with the one you love.
6) There’s not a person in the world who doesn’t have one single annoying habit, and for the most part that’s not a problem…but when something you do really grates on your partner’s nerves, try not to do it so much or if possible not at all. Irritating quirks like biting your fingernails or drumming on the table aren’t usually showstoppers, but things that really irritate your partner cause unnecessary tension that could make other little everyday problems stack up and amount to a real situation. Try to consider your partner’s feelings, and work on your bad habits.
There are a lot of things that can contribute to the “demise” of a relationship, and these are really just a few of them…but by thinking this way you should have a good shot at identifying any of the things that are really hurting your relationship…and if you’re in the middle of a breakup, then addressing problems like these could really help your chances of getting through it with your partner still by your side!
